Topic: The things that make me sad, angry, and upset

[Bubba]

Hoping for the best for your Mom.

[tenpenny]

my mom had pancreatitis.
while checking pancreas, docs found 3 cm mass. 

read online that 85% of tumors found on pancreas is cancer.   

i'm feeling a lost and panicked. .  they did a biopsy, and i'm desparately clinging to the hope that she's among the 15% but fcuk..  i'm getting depressed...

All I can say is, treasure your mom right now and forever.  You can’t predict what really happens, but I have to say, accept the odds.  Tell her everything she means to you.


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[johngenx]

^^^  This.  I was doing stay-at-home Dad duty at the time, so my daughter and I spent every minute we could with her.  We got them to move in with us for a while even.  I'm so glad we had that.

[KD]

my mom had pancreatitis.
while checking pancreas, docs found 3 cm mass. 

read online that 85% of tumors found on pancreas is cancer.   

i'm feeling a lost and panicked. .  they did a biopsy, and i'm desparately clinging to the hope that she's among the 15% but fcuk..  i'm getting depressed...

All I can say is, treasure your mom right now and forever.  You can’t predict what really happens, but I have to say, accept the odds.  Tell her everything she means to you.


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Good advice. 

My mom has been in the hospital since late December.  She’s old now and not functioning well, and likely wont leave the hospital, or if she does it will be to a full care facility to live out her remaining days.   She has had an amazingly adventurous life and still managed to bring up two generations of children, so it’s really tough to see her fade away gradually.  We just try to make the best of it and all four of us visit her several times a week. 

[Firm]

Cancer. Sorry to hear aqua; this is tough stuff but the advice here is sound - take advantage of everything you can to get her (and yourself) as much help as possible.
Had a similar scare with my mom years ago (I was in highschool); turned out to be a false diagnosis of sorts, not cancer, but man those were some sleepless nights. 

[Gurgie]

Very sorry to read that, hoping for the best for her & your family.

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[Ex-airbalancer]

my mom had pancreatitis.
while checking pancreas, docs found 3 cm mass. 

read online that 85% of tumors found on pancreas is cancer.   

i'm feeling a lost and panicked. .  they did a biopsy, and i'm desparately clinging to the hope that she's among the 15% but fcuk..  i'm getting depressed...

[Sir Osis of Liver]

All I can say is, treasure your mom right now and forever.  You can’t predict what really happens, but I have to say, accept the odds.  Tell her everything she means to you.

That's very good advice.

I wish all the best for you and your mum, aquadorhj.

[mlin32]

^Agreed. As an only-child, I can't imagine life without my parents. Wishing the very best out come @aquadorhj 

Ok, I'm going to go on a bit of a rant.

German autobahns, or infrastructure in general. Oh boy, where do I start........

Dear Germany, STOP BEING A CHEAPSKATE AND SPEND MONEY ON PUBLIC INFRASTRUCTURE !!!!

Sure, you're awfully proud of having a balanced budget. But that, everyone has to suffer cuz of that. Drive into ANY bordering country in Western Europe and it's painfully obvious German roads suck. Your signage is old, moss covered, and far too small. Your abbreviations are unfathomable, much less at 160 km/h. Your on/off-ramps were designed for vehicular traffic in the 1960s with no separating barrier and sharp, decreasing-radius curves.  Most of your autobahns have zero left shoulder, and many don't have a right shoulder either. Your vehiclular traffic and population has grown, and yet you insist on keeping most of the mileage as 2-laners, resulting in hour-long congestion at any given time.

And then there are the roadworks. I'm sorry, but no other modern country takes SO LONG to complete any sort of widening, repair, or repaving work. Widening takes 3 years. Repaving 5km takes you the better part of 7 months. And the work zones are EVERYWHERE, forcing traffic to a grinding halt with 2m-wide lanes and contraflow......to look at the empty work zones. Yup, German construction works work only Monday-Friday, seemingly 8am to 5pm. Raining ? Guess no work. Holiday ? No work (but work zone remains). Too cold ? No work. You guys are LAZY. 

Compounding this are the abrupt changes in speed, lane pattern, exit/on-ramps, and lane width. Some exits are literally a 90° right-turn hidden behind cones and barriers. WTF?    . "Oh but there was a sign back there" you say ? Sure there probably was, probably the size of an A3 piece of paper taked onto a small metal stick with font smaller than my text right now. 

Look at the Netherlands. Look at France (admittedly privatised). Look at Luxembourg. Hell, North Carolina has better infrastructure. German pavement mostly sucks. It's lumpy, broken, poorly patched, and has lines are are not visible at night or when raining. Put some serious money and effort into modernisation. Throw money at private concessions to get work done QUICKLY, not over the next 5 years. Don't give me "balanced budget bull****" because I hate driving on your German autobahns. I don't mind paying tolls, having a 130km/h nationwide speed limit (110 when wet), or paying higher fuel taxes. I just want the damn infrastructure brought up to 2018 standards, not 1997 !!

/rant.

[ArticSteve]

^  interesting.

[Fobroader]

Huh, would have thought ze Germans would have been top notch on this kind of thing.

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[PJungnitsch]

Used to be excellent in the 90's.

I guess before they spent all their money rebuilding and paving Ireland, Poland, the DDR, etc

[Solstice2006]

So a little over year ago, I had home insurance and car insurance with Bel Air.  When I wanted to add the GC to the auto policy, they couldn't because they don't do commercial.  During the conversation, the storage of my lawn equipment came up.  Which is commercial, so they cancelled my home policy.  So I switched over everything to State Farm. 

I move at the end of May, State Farm wants $475 extra ($1632 a year) from my house in Burlington to the house in Ancaster.  Not sure why, the assessed value is nearly identical.

So I call Bel Air to get a quote, they want $1077, if I have the Entourage insured with them.  That's $555 difference! I asked them since I no longer keep my lawn mowers in the garage, I keep them in an enclosed trailer.  Sorry, if someone breaks in, and hurts themselves, they could sue you.  So why the heck am I paying business insurance. So they won't issue it to me.  Going to check for a 3rd option.  insurance companies. 

[johngenx]

I've dived into the Highlander's rear suspension, and it looks like the bushings where the rear lower control arms meet the knuckle are toast - and they don't seem replaceable on the AWD models.  I might have to swap out the knuckles - and they're HELLA $$ and seem to be only OE sold.

 

[Solstice2006]

I've dived into the Highlander's rear suspension, and it looks like the bushings where the rear lower control arms meet the knuckle are toast - and they don't seem replaceable on the AWD models.  I might have to swap out the knuckles - and they're HELLA $$ and seem to be only OE sold.

 

Not sure how much.  But at what point is car to expensive to be worth to replace? Not saying this is the case, just curious.

[johngenx]

The right side is the culprit, the knuckles are about $800 for the pair.  I might just replace one.  Not spending an extra $800 on the car would be penny wise and dollar foolish.

[Solstice2006]

My uncle has a first gen CRV, 2003 more or less.  290k, needs calipers, rotors, and pads.  Can't' do any of the work himself.  He is looking at replacing it, but they are pretty silly, looking at new cars, long loans, low interest rates.  Have never really considered used, unless it was free or peanuts. 

[johngenx]

My uncle has a first gen CRV, 2003 more or less.  290k, needs calipers, rotors, and pads.  Can't' do any of the work himself.  He is looking at replacing it, but they are pretty silly, looking at new cars, long loans, low interest rates.  Have never really considered used, unless it was free or peanuts.

Yeah, the cost of new is so much more it makes no sense unless a car is beyond hope.  Even if I replace both rear spindles, the total bill for rebuilding front and rear suspensions (starting with the rear now, but front will come in a few weeks) will be <$2500.  Spending a couple grand to have the entire suspension refreshed is what, three payments on a new SUV?  The engine and trans are in fine form, the body is great, the interior cleans up like new, and the overall it's got a ton of life left.

[Seafoam]

Yeah sometimes it's worth it to do the repair . If the vehicle is generally reliable and you know how it's been maintained why buy another used vehicle and start over again. I kind of feel that way with my old truck. It hasn't cost me that much in the 2 years I have had it and it is now 20 years old.
People will sometimes get rid of a car not because it is junk . They are bored and want something new and shiny. That can be costly as well. We are car guys though.

[Ex-airbalancer]

"They are bored and want something new and shiny"

Number one reason why people get a   Vehicle