A bit of a long one.
A cousin of mine was studying at a college in Ontario. I saw him in mid-June in Winnipeg at my wedding. We hung out before and after the wedding. All was good. Then after we are back from our honeymoon (29th of June), he calls me and says he has graduated, but doesn't have any leads on a job yet. He is moving to a smaller place (a room in shared apartment) but is short on rent money or the security deposit. I say ok, and send him some cash. He calls me the next day and says he hasn't found a place and needs to be out of his place by the next day (now im thinking then why did you ask for money the previous day if u hadnt even found a place to move into, but dont say anything). So I tell him he can come and stay in my basement in Regina while he looks for a job. Doesn't have to worry about rent/groceries. So I take back the money I had previously sent him and book him a flight.
He gets here and the day he arrives he says it was really difficult to move from Ontario to SK. Then he says his friends in ON have bet him that he will be back in a month. Both these statements rub me the wrong way. Again I don't say anything. He has been here over two weeks now, and hasn't gone out looking for a job once. Not one day. Hasn't asked me to print out resumes. Nothing. He claims everything is online now. While that may be true, I still think it helps to go out and drop off resumes, volunteer, make contacts rather than just sit at home all day. Even at home, I have seen him spend more time on the PS3 than on Linkedin or Indeed.
Now I'm going to be listing my house soon, and moving to Winnipeg into my wife's 1 bdrm condo, while we look for a new house to buy in the Peg. I ask him how he feels about staying in the house in Regina until it sells. I figure he'd have the house to himself. The condo in winnipeg could get a little tight, and i wouldn't have to worry about getting someone to mow the lawn etc when the realtor is showing the house. He says he wants to come back to ON because he got a call about a job at a mall kiosk in ON, and wasn't able to make the interview cos he was in SK, and he feels he will be getting more calls for ON jobs soon. I ask what he will do for rent. He says he will make some arrangements (then why didn't you make those arrangements before?), and that "he is sure" he will get a job within a month. OK, then. I'm ticked off, and figure he can find his own way back to ON. But his dad is doing some running around for me to get some paperwork done in India so I figure I owe him, and pay for his flight back. He says it would be hard for him to be in Regina by himself without a vehicle, and he has a bus pass back in Ontario
W.T.F?
Now Im thinking what was the point of him ever coming out here? And have decided that once he goes back to ON, if he needs any financial help, then I will be saying no. I'm nice, but I'm not stupid. I'm sure there will be some family drama to come out of this, but the way I see it, if I was unemployed coming out of college/university and someone gave me a place to stay rent-free and put food on the table while I looked for a job, I'd be thrilled.
I would put it down to "oh he's young and stupid". Not the case. He is 27.
