As i am a fairy new driver safety features and reliability are important to me. After that i would like a low cost of ownership as well.
I love fairy drivers!
just teasing you.
I will always be a proponent of getting a Subaru Impreza for a lot of reasons. First, AWD is a big bonus. Second, they are among the safest of the compacts. Third, resale is insanely high. Fourth, insurance tends to be a bit lower (because of AWD and they're not stolen as often as the Civic - the Civic will likely have the highest cost of insurance).
I think the Ford Focus will be a good bet due to its depreciation - most will already be gone by that point. I honestly would not recommend a 2009-2013 Corolla (and I own one). A Civic may be a good purchase, but you tend to pay a lot for it because it has strong resale and then there's the issue of insurance. I would NOT recommend a Mazda3 because of of your concerns re reliability. They're not UNreliable, but they're not as solid as many others.
The Hyundai Elantra is probably a very good idea for you, too. Insurance rates will be low, it'll have a lot of features, and they'll be cheaper.
JohnnyMac is also very correct re: Tires, etc. He's referring to sizing: 15" tires are cheap. 16" are reasonable. 17" are getting expensive. 18" are REALLY pricey. Most compacts will have small-ish wheels in base/mid-level trims (i.e. Corolla CE vs LE - the CE has 15", the CE has 16", and then there's the S trim that has 17"). They're only really beneficial for visual appeal and otherwise cost you a lot of money down the road.
I'm a personal injury lawyer - to me, safety is also important. The IIHS (
http://www.iihs.org/iihs/ratings/v/class-summary/small-cars) rates cars based on safety. You should consider its opinions, but don't assume that a 2012 will be the same as a 2014 - there are MANY advances in each generation (not necessarily model year). I'd say if you're buying anything between 2011-2013, they're all very safe based on the usual crash tests. After that time, the 'small-offset' test became widespread and many compacts failed. I would limit your search to 2011 vehicles or newer.