"Sounds like John is surrounded by a bunch of overly-polite sissypants folks."
If by "overly-polite sissypants folks" you mean caring, sensitive, socially responsible and highly empathic people, you'd be wrong because I don't know anyone like that.
My friends consist of bikers, ex-cons and stock brokers who eat the slow and weak of the herd for breakfast and then demand a recycling fee before they flush the toilet.
Bridgette and I are probably related.
But even the most jaded and hard-bitten individuals have been taken at least a couple of times and when this happens we have to speak. These people make a living doing this and that means they are parasites on the community. The fewer parasites, the healthier the community.
We can't put the big crooks in jail but at least we can cut down on the small time con artist.
Cheers,
John M.