I don't get what the problem is? Dehumidifying the air is what makes the defroster setting work.
Sure, but I like to use the defroster setting for general ventilation simply because it doesn't blow air at my face, arms or feet - just a nice, unobtrusive supply of fresh air.
As for why I don't like to let the A/C compressor run all the time, aside from the fuel economy implications, there's also the matter of how much power it sucks from a small engine like that in a Civic. While Barrie might not notice 5 or 10 horsepower missing from his big block V8, it makes a very noticeable difference with a tiny engine that makes all its power up high in the rev range.
I'm actually pretty happy with how Honda has got the system set up in my Civic: compressor comes on automatically in defrost mode, but you can still hit the A/C button to turn it off if you wish.
When I get a minute I'll try Artic's suggestion to see if it works on my '99.